Overcome Your Laziness

 

If you just look at the busy streets of Singapore, you’ll get the picture that Singaporeans are rarely lazy. But if you happen to be one of those unfortunate lazy ones, I can just imagine how life can be even tougher for you. Unless you’re one of the lucky few who are born with wealthy parents, we’re all required to spend our waking lives working.

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That is, if we want to live the life we want. For some, even working six days a week and more than eight hours a day is still not enough to give them a comfortable life. To ditch that ugly bitch called laziness, here are some tips:

  1. Write down a to-do list for the next day

It’s so easy to start your day forgetting about the things you needed to do. Before you know it, you’re already feeling lazy even before you’re able to accomplish anything productive for the day. So before you go to bed at night, write down a To-Do list for the following day. This helps you prepare for a productive day even before it starts. Make sure you place this To-Do list somewhere you’ll easily see when you wake up.

  1. Eat that frog!

The hardest part of doing anything is starting it. So before you even start thinking of the huge task ahead of you or how lazy you can be, dive on that first task already. Make sure you start with the difficult and least interesting tasks because your energy is still up by then and it’ll be easier for you to push through when you know you’re already done with the most difficult part.

  1. Time yourself

Know how productive or lazy you are by timing yourself. You should have set an organized timeline for yourself where you have already accomplished a certain task by a particular hour. Look at this timeline from time to time so that it gives you the push to work harder and finish your goals.

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  1. Enjoy a lazy weekend

Reward yourself with a lazy indulging self-pampering weekend. Let this be the reward you can look forward to while you grind yourself for the rest of the week. You will better appreciate a relaxing weekend when you know you’ve had a productive week.

  1. Make it a habit

Make this a routine every day and every week for a month until this becomes a habit. What better way to ditch an unproductive trait than by replacing it with a positive one. The more you do these steps, the easier they become.

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Taiwanese Movies You Should Watch

 

There comes a time when you just get so bored watching the usual Singaporean or Hollywood movies. It’s probably the over familiarity with the language and movie styles, but sometimes you just want to try on something new (just like how you’d like to try some new taste in food from time to time).

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To satisfy your cinematic cravings, you can give Taiwanese movies a try – you’ll be surprised at how wonderful their movies can be. And it’s a big plus that they also have really good looking actors and actresses with superb skills. These are some of the most highly recommended Taiwanese movies you should watch:

Eat Drink Man Woman

This excellent movie from an excellent director, Ang Lee, has great cinematography and is every bit interesting to watch. It combines food and love between family members as the movie’s chef father meets with his grown daughters over Sunday dinners.

You Are the Apple of My Eye

This coming of age romantic comedy film is every bit brilliant with its lead casts and story plot. You’ll find yourself smiling and laughing over familiar jokes and pranks or flabbergasted over unannounced movie scenes that you can’t tell if it’s necessary for the story or merely just to provoke you. You’ll reminisce over your own high school romance, fall in love, and maybe even feel heartbroken.

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Monga

Monga is a gangster film starred by good looking hot Taiwanese actors with superb acting performances. You may have watched plenty of gangster films already and think this is just another macho action film but this is more than that. Monga is a story of brotherhood, loyalty, hate, and love – think bromance macho style. The film is emotional, exciting, raw and fun.

Yi Yi: A One and a Two

Some stories are difficult and heartbreaking and yet we can’t stop watching them. Such is the movie Yi Yi: A One and a Two. This film is about a businessman but who does his best to be also a father and a family man.

Cape No. 7

Cape No. 7 is a romance comedy that features music and country life. It explores the story of a love between a couple that has been shared 60 years ago and discovered through mail love letters. It also features a local Hengchun rock band and Taiwan’s local politics. This is a very light and relaxing movie so you don’t need to have those tissues ready.

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How to Have Fun Travelling as an Introvert

Travelling as an introvert is one amazing experience, but can be challenging at times. After all, even if you love learning new cultures and meeting new people, you’ll need some alone time to recharge from all the social activities you’ve done. That can be difficult to find when you’re on the road and out from your usual routine. But fret no more, we’ve listed some useful travel tips to help you make the most out of your introversion and your overseas trip.

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  1. Do It Alone

Introverted travellers often struggle finding the sweet spot between spending so much time socializing and so much time alone. But this can be easily controlled by travelling alone. Prefer staying in the same place for a week or so? No problem. Want to catch up with a friend living in a neighbouring city? Get on the next flight. There’s just lots of things you can do when you travel alone. Plus, it increases the possibility of meeting people since you’ll be forced to start a conversation with the locals or your fellow travellers in the hostel. Either way, you’ll discover your inner extrovert when you need it the most.

  1. Travel in a Small Group

If you’re not that fond of being a lone wolf, consider inviting one or two of your friends. As an introvert, you’ll likely have several close friends and they can serve as your perfect travel buddies. Approaching other groups will be easier with this set-up, since you won’t be doing all the small talks alone. Travelling in a smaller group also makes planning out your itinerary easier. Introverts are known to be excellent researchers, which means you’ll be able to expertly navigate the public transport system of the place and find the best kept secrets of your destination.

  1. Release Your Inner Social Butterfly

Introverts aren’t known to enjoy socializing, but when they do release their inner social butterfly, they’re more likely to create deep connections and maintain friendships even after their trip has ended. So don’t be scared to approach individuals whom you could establish lasting connections with. Although you’ll need your own space every once in a while, you should remain open to the possibilities of meeting new people.

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  1. Immerse With the Locals

Introverts love spending more time reflecting on their surroundings and picking up the subtleties that other people miss. With these traits, you’ll be able to soak up the local culture and get a better understanding of the foreign lifestyle. Immersing with the locals will allow you to engage with them on a deeper level, and see the city or town in their perspective. Even if you need to find energy to socialize, learning to say ‘yes’ will open up your doors to amazing adventures you didn’t know you could have.

  1. Take Time to Recharge

Since you’ve already chosen your travel companions and have dedicated some time to be a social butterfly, it’s now time to think about your precious alone time. If you’re a true introvert, you’ll definitely want to use your ‘me’ time reflecting and creating things. So use those long bus and train rides during your trip to kick back and contemplate on things.

Getting enough alone time will provide you with a perfect opportunity to shut the world out and socialize. Whether it’s reading, capturing photos, or writing on your journal, do the things that you love without any distraction.

  1. Unplug From the World

While you’re recharging, you may find it helpful to unplug from the world. Travelling often leaves you with little or no access to technology and Internet altogether. Resisting the urge to check Twitter or Instagram gives you a chance to fully engage in a book you’ve always wanted to read, or to spot some picturesque sceneries. Don’t worry about posting updates every now and then, or fret that everyone’s having fun while you’re just chilling on your own. Remember that this is your trip and you have the right to do whatever you wish to do.

Travelling outside Singapore can be quite challenging for an introvert, but by putting these tips to work, you’ll definitely be able to enjoy your much deserved vacation all by yourself.

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A Guide to Surviving Your First Blind Date

In the past years, blind dates usually meant a mutual friend set you up with a stranger. These days, however, dating sites and applications do the legwork for us. Yet regardless of how much you’ve been texting or Snapchatting beforehand, it’s no different from the ‘blind’ dates of yesteryear – the other party is still a complete stranger. That said, your first real life encounter with your potential partner should be handled with a low dose of expectation but with a high dose of openness. To help you master the art of blind dating, here are six tips to save you from your first blind date jitters.

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  1. Be Equally Cautious and Curious

When going on dates, your mentality should focus on getting to know the other person. You’re meeting the person to learn more about him or her, as well as to see if you have some chemistry. But do balance your openness with extra caution since you’ve never met the person before. Some of the good ways to do it is letting your friends know where you are, tagging your location on Facebook, and choosing a busy and well-lit meeting place for you can never be too careful around a stranger.

  1. Skip the Dinner

Setting your first date at a fine dining restaurant puts a lot of unwarranted pressure on both parties, so choose a dating place that’s casual. Opt for cafés, pizzerias, or coffee shops near your area in Singapore to remove the formality that’s typically associated with a dinner date. Going on dinner dates set you up for a ‘dating interview’, which can be quite expensive and time-consuming to do for someone you’re not sure about. So keep the formality for your job interviews, and ditch it for your blind dates.

  1. Keep Your Expectations Low

Meeting someone can be exciting, especially if you’ve developed some chemistry through texting or Snapchatting. Still, building up a potential partner you’ve never met may cause you to self-sabotage if the person can’t live up to your idyllic expectations. To avoid this, simply settle with the goal of learning more about this person. Having this goal in mind during your date will make it more likely to succeed.

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  1. Be Open With Conversation Gaps

If your nerves got the best of you and can’t seem to think of any intelligible thing say, don’t worry – and don’t assume that moments of silence during your date mean a lack of interest. Lulls in a conversation is normal, especially if it’s caused by first-date jitters or your self-inflicted pressure to come across as effortlessly cool. At the end of the day, you’d rather have a couple of seconds of silence that lead to a great conversation instead of frantically conversing just to fill in the void.

  1. Make Your Date Short and Sweet

A first date is more of an exploration to see if you enjoy each other’s company, and if you can build some rapport. But just like food, dates also have an expiration date. The longer a date goes on, the more difficult it’ll be to keep up the energy and enthusiasm. So keep your date between one to two hours to keep the energy going. You definitely want to part with both parties excited to see each other again, not exhausted after hours of chit-chatting. Keeping the date short also ensures that you won’t need an escape plan should the date go flat and boring.

  1. Ditch Your Escape Plan

Avoid going all high school and asking your friend to call you because of an ‘emergency’ just to escape your date. You’re an adult now, and that’s a sophomoric behaviour at best. Remember that the person made time to meet you, so follow through with your commitment. If you’re not really feeling it, just respectfully tell the person about it. Then, meet up with your friends to talk about how everything went.

Most blind dates don’t hold up to the rom-com standard we see in movies. But if you still choose to go on these dates, then be proud of how brave you are for doing it – and turn all your sour dates to great stories and learning experiences.

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5 Legendary Singers of All Time

 

Many artists from around the globe are making fame to international scenario for their exceptional talent. There are who are known for different sports event, exceptional performances and talent like dancing, painting, theatrical plays and of course singing. They are gaining fame because they shine from the rest and they are overly talented which gives honor and pride to their own countries.

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In Singapore, particularly in the field of singing, there are a lot of local artists who are acknowledged for their extraordinary talent in the musical arena. One of the best singer-songwriters in Singapore is Stephanie Sun who is famous in her fans as “13th Sister”. She is known as the Singaporean Mandopop Queen and sold more than 30 million copies of her album which is one of the most successful albums to be sold in Singapore. In the International arena, there are best and renowned singers of all time known for their one of a kind contribution in the music industry. Here are five legendary singers of all time that you should know;

  1. Elvis Presley – King of Rock ’n Roll

Who would ever forget the all-time king of rock n roll Elvis Presley? His first single entitled “Heartbreak Hotel” became a number 1 hit in the United States after its successful release. He became so famous that he even starred in a film on 1956 in the movie Love me Tender. But due to severe drug abuse, he was later on diagnosed and died at a young age of 42.

  1. Freddie Mercury – Master of the Stage

Freddie Mercury is one the best singers who has a four octave voice. He was the lead vocalist in the band queen and is known for his extraordinary performances on stage. He wrote and composed successful songs for the band Queen like the Bohemian Rhapsody, Killer Queen, Somebody to Love, Crazy Little Thing called Love and many more. At the age 45, he died of complication for he was diagnosed with AIDS.

  1. John Lennon – Beatles Frontman

John Winston Lennon or famously known as John Lennon started his career with his band the Quarrymen who later on evolved into Beatles. When the band disbanded he later on went solo and launched successful albums with his iconic singles like Give Peace a Chance and Imagine. He disengaged in the music industry in 1975 to raise his son and went back on 1980 where he released another album and was murdered three weeks later after the release.

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  1. Michael Jackson – King of Pop

Without a doubt, Michael Jackson is a global figure of pop music all over the world. His contribution to the music industry influenced a lot of artist. He is known for his very successful songs like Billie Jeans, Thriller, Bad, Man in the Mirror and a lot more. He is also known for his smooth moon walking style in dancing.  He has experienced glorious years but in 2009, he bid farewell to the world when he died due to cardiac arrest which leaves the whole world in grief.

  1. Bob Marley – Reggae Royalty

A Jamaican singer-songwriter, Bob Marley gained international fame on his reggae style of music. He started his career in a band and was later on became a solo artist. He is a musician who fights for freedom and to what he believes in. He was one of the misunderstood artists in his generation. In 1981 he died due to a malignant type of melanoma in the young age of 36.

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4 Signs That Your Partner is Cheating

 

In today’s generation, one of the biggest issues that most people faced is the issue of infidelity. The issue of being un-loyal, being unfaithful and being untrue is a reality that most people especially those in a relationship faces on today. Relationship are torn and broken apart, couple’s separated and families divided.

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In a relationship, being involved in an affair is never a mistake – instead it is a choice where the couple is bound for its free will. Having a third wheel is too much of a load for the couple to carry, and no one deserves to be cheated and no one must settle to be a third wheel. This infidelity happens mostly because one partner is too blinded on the concept of love that they do not look into the gaps of the other just to maintain the relationship. Here are four signs to know that your partner is cheating on you;

  1. His time is yours no more – Busy. Busy. Busy

One of the signs that your partner is cheating on you is when unlike the usual his or her schedule suddenly shifts from time to time, they are not around anymore like the usual, and being with them is not as easy as before. Sometimes, when you ask for them to come around and pick you up or you want to hang out with them unscheduled, they suddenly have some “other” things to do. If you are with them, sometimes they seem to be always in a hurry for something. Hey, if your partner is acting like this then having q pint of doubt is not that bad.

  1. He won’t allow you to his/her personal stuffs anymore

If your guy or girl becomes more secretive with his personal stuffs unlike the usual then maybe they are up to something. For instance, before you can easily access his or her cellphone or social media account but now you can’t because he changed his/her password and when you ask them why, they seem to answer in a very uneasy way.

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  1. He won’t let you have dates on public places

If dating was easy before where you can just have long walks in the park or window shop at your favorite mall, or even chill and read books in your favorite café, but now when you ask him or her if you can go for a walk in the park or help you find a specific item in the mall he or she is uncomfortable anymore. He or she will reason out that they are busy or might as well suggest a new place to go to where there are less people. This is okay but if it happens a lot of time then maybe you can start doubting their actions.

  1. He is acting strange, real strange

When your guy or gal is acting quite strange like he or she gets mad easily for no reason or his or her sweetness is not there anymore, then having a little doubt is not that bad.  This sudden change of behavior can be an effect of something they are up to. Or if they are being too sweet all of a sudden, quite clingy unlike before maybe they are having the guilt attack that is why they tend to do this things again.

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Emotional Hygiene: Why It’s as Important as Physical First Aid

 

When we get a cut, our instincts would tell us that we have to reach out for a Band-Aid and stop the bleeding so it does not get infected. We have all been taught that it is important to brush our teeth at least twice a day to maintain proper dental hygiene. We have known these things since we’re five and that it has become natural to our system, but what about our minds? What first-aid measures do we observe when we experience psychological injuries? Why do we spend so much time and attention looking after our physical well-being than our mental health?

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If truth be told, we encounter psychological afflictions more often than we do physical ones, painful wounds such as depression, loneliness, rejection and failure. They are common to any normal person’s life and just like physical injuries, they can get worse if we do not put a “Band-Aid” the moment we catch them. Although tons of scientifically proven psychological techniques are available, we don’t really take advantage of them because people have automated reactions when dealing with depression. Imagine saying, “Oh, you feel depressed? Just brush it off. It’s all in your mind.” It’s like saying those words to someone with broken ankles, “Oh you have broken ankles? Just walk it off, it’s all in your ankles.”

Beating the blues is more than that, depression for example, can happen to anyone. According to National Mental Health Survey, an estimated 5.6% of Singapore’s population has been affected by this mental problem in their lifetime. So why is it important to treat these psychological wounds before they infect us?

Psychological Wounds Dig Deeper

Loneliness, for instance, can cultivate deep psychological damage as it clouds and distorts a person’s way of thinking. It gives an impression that nobody cares and in turn, makes the person isolated by making him afraid to reach out to people around him. The perception starts with a question, “Why set yourself up for another rejection when you are already paining more than what you can bear?” Loneliness isn’t just there to make you feel brutally miserable but it can kill you, literally. According to studies on loneliness, experiencing it chronically can increase your chances of early death by 14 percent as it results to high blood pressure, cholesterol, functional suppression of your bodily systems and vulnerability to other diseases.

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Your Reactions Say More than What You Think

When you are confronted with any setback, are you mindful of how you react? You have to. If your mind tells you that you are incapable and that you cannot make it up again, and you believe it yourself, then you are bound to be miserable. No wonder why people perform below their actual potential because they have been convinced by their minds that it is all they are good at and once you believe your own thoughts, it becomes very difficult to change. Our minds can play tricks on us, sometimes they are not so trust worthy friends. More so, they seem supportive one time and really unpleasant the next. So it is very crucial that you take control in avoiding feelings of helplessness and belittling yourself. You have to tweak your perception whenever faced with rejection, for example, to improve your reaction and mental health.

Poor Emotional Hygiene Can Lead to Piled Up Baggage

Psychological discomforts when not refrained immediately may occur to the person’s mind from time to time. It is like storing it in a secret closet on his mind and a new one comes along until becomes full and difficult to arrange, just like a real cluttered closet. It piles up. It becomes too much to handle and more negative. Studies show that diversion of one’s attention from a negative feeling or thought for even two minutes can dramatically change the person’s mood. From there, the negativities are ignored and released to welcome and replace them with positive vibes through distraction.

Zero Tolerance for Self-Criticism Can Go a Long Way

Yes! It is difficult and tempting to refrain from pointing a finger at ourselves when something goes wrong with school, work or relationships but it is a mistake that should be corrected. Self-criticisms are punitive and brutal in nature that it only brings nothing but damage to our good emotional state. Instead of clinging to the exhaustive course of self-blaming, you should get a good pair of eye-glasses and avoid being subjective to understand what actually happened and the other contributing factors which led to such loss. Take a good look at what you have to offer as opposed to your shortcomings.

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Why Online Dating Is a Must-try

 

Online dating is indeed a present-day option for many in their quest to find long-lasting love. It has become a fad not only because of the convenience it brings but the chances it holds for many hopeful singles around the globe. In Singapore, the population of single men and women increased based on the survey but the sharpest spike ranged from 43,100 to 75,600 between years 2004 and 2014. This notable increase was said to jump 75% compared to earlier years.

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Be that as it may, online dating made no exception in the eyes of critics as the least expected place to start a lasting relationships because, after all, people like the chase and thrill of traditional dating. But there really is more to online dating than what many people assume. Here are some reasons who you should try it if you’re looking for love:

  1. You meet people across the globe from the comfort of your home

Undoubtedly! Without literally opening your mouth and moving your feet. You are given the freedom to filter the type of person you’re searching for, from the race down to shared interests. It’s an understatement to say that online dating is efficient because nothing is easier than swiping profiles and hitting up someone who catches your attention.

  1. Options, options, options

When you go out in a club or pub, chances are, you don’t have many options to choose from. Let’s say half of the crowd is single but this doesn’t mean that these people fall into your category of preferences and vice versa. You have to talk to each one of them just to find out unless the DJ will announce on microphone, (“All the single, handsome men with high paying jobs put your hands up!”) then that will work. In online dating, it’s the other way around and less time consuming.

  1. You become less impulsive

We’ve all been there when we have gotten caught up in the heat of the moment only to realize that you regret what you did and to whom you did it with last night. In the course of online, you put some sort of chastity belt around you and boundaries before finally meeting up in person.  You will have the opportunity to reflect on what you really want in a relationship as you gauge the person by asking questions, thinking about them and checking on your standards if they meet any. This gift allows you to figure out if he/she is a potential life mate or is someone you’d actually like to date and love to get in between sheets with.

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  1. You’ll save – a lot

Aside from free online dating sites, the money you can save versus offline dating is economically practical. If truth be told, these are low monetary investments that do not actually hurt your budget when the budding relationship is set to fail. Need I say more?

  1. You can keep private things private

If there is one good thing about your life that should be kept in private, it’s no other than your love life. With offline dating, everyone is in the loop of who you are hitting on or attracted to and if it happens to be more than one, people may start putting on labels you don’t deserve when you are only trying to find your match. People find it easy to resort to name-calling, eavesdropping and all that jazz which can be a frustrating experience.

With social media, you have the power to keep in private whoever it is that you are trying to get to know. There will be bigger chances that the person you are flirting with is not your common friend, childhood classmate or an acquaintance of your neighbor. You step out from your circle of friends.

  1. No quiet chat room

While it is a reality that you can’t get hold of a constant communication with one person when it comes to online dating, the good news is, you will get contact every now and then with new people. Your world does not end when one stops calling you because the candidate pool is wide and active. Moreover, you have less developed emotional attachment and therefore, it is less disappointing when your chat mate calls it quits.

In the same fashion as traditional dating scene, online romance leave no guarantee for successful love stories  as it has also its own set of potential risks but if you know when to set real good boundaries and expectations while having harmless fun in the process, then welcome to online community!

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Common Misconceptions about Coffee Revealed

 

Coffee is a staple not only here in Singapore but around the world. In fact, there are many Singaporeans who would admit that they are addicted to coffee. Depending on what we believe, coffee can either make or break our life. To others, coffee is healthy drink and some believe that it slowly kills us.

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What should we believe? There are studies that prove coffee to prevent heart diseases as well as boost brainpower whilst there are other studies that claim it raises blood pressure and can ruin concentration. Regardless of what research say, we drink coffee either out of need or of habit. The key here is to drink moderately.

Indeed there are many misconceptions about coffee. It is understandable that we get confused sometimes. The good news is that Marie Barone and fellow Melinda Gong, UC Davis Medical Center’s  registered dieticians laid out the facts about coffee.

Here’s what you should know:

  • Coffee leads to dehydration: They say that coffee leads to dehydration. The truth is there is no claim that said so. Drinking coffee (at least one to three cups a day) is not going to dehydrate you. According to Barone, the water used in making coffee definitely counts fluid intake. Coffees and other caffeinated beverages have little diuretic effect but it does not lead to dehydration.
  • Caffeine can improve workouts: According to American College of Sports Medicine, caffeine can improve performance. This is possible knowing that caffeine can increase circulation by Gong consider this claim tricky. While it is true that it can improve workouts, it is only short term and if an athlete is immune to caffeine, there will be no effect.

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  • Coffee can prevent serious diseases: Serious diseases include cancers, type 2 diabetes and Parkinson’s disease. There are many studies that reveal people who drink coffee are less likely to have diseases mentioned earlier than those who do not drink. This finding merely compares drinkers and non-drinkers of coffee with regards to the diseases.
  • Pregnant women are not allowed to drink coffee: Pregnant women believe that coffees are not allowed since it can cause preterm birth or even miscarriage. More studies need to be made. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, pregnant women who drink less than two hundred milligram of caffeine per day don’t cause preterm birth or miscarriage.
  • Coffee gives instant boost: You have to know that coffee will take about fifteen minutes to be metabolized so it cannot give you the instant boost. You will likely feel the boost within the first hour however, the effects will decline as it will flush in your system.

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